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Hi FBP, Patsy, and Janda,
I think that most women aren't too comfortable with negotiation but can improve with practice; that's why AWIS and other workshops can be so valuable when they give people a chance to practice. I know Janda that people do get jealous some times, and I'm sorry to hear that they've made you feel bad about doing something I think is good. Hope it goes away with time. It might help if you are generous with any equipment you got on the big startup.
best,
Laura
I negotiated everything and I got a lot more than the starting offer, but I think now maybe I pushed too hard. Sometimes people express resentment because my starting offer was so much better than theirs. But they admit they didn't negotiate. I don't know, maybe moderation even in negotiation works best.
Sounds really helpful. I am clueless about where there might be flexibility, so these tips really help.
OK, when I took my first faculty job I just took the offer. But later offers, I really negotiated, and it's a good thing I did. What they offered to begin with was way lower than what they were willing to give me, and I needed more to make my lab work. I had to learn negotiation for myself, but when I went to a workshop on it recently, I recognized a lot of the tactics, and this article does a pretty good job of describing them. Men think of this stuff as a game. Women don't, but we need to.
FBP