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In 2015, while we were both in graduate school, my partner and I decided we were ready to start a family. I meticulously planned the last year of graduate school around my pregnancy, hoping to defend my thesis just before giving birth and then take three months off to be with my child. Things generally went according to plan; I wrote my thesis, defended it successfully and accepted a postdoctoral position in a reproductive-biology laboratory halfway across the country. A few days after turning in my final thesis edits, I became a mother.